Merits of Nikaah

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The religion of Islam wants its followers to have the extreme degree of integrity, piety, forbearance, sympathy, kindness, chastity and purity. It also demands that they should be free, clean and far away from the ugly opprobrious attributes like dishonesty, treachery, greed, immodesty, shamelessness. Regarding the satisfaction of human necessities which Allah Ta’ala has trusted in the human being, He has Himself recommended its suitable and satisfactory treatment. Accordingly, Nikaah has been made as a means for the safety of eyes and sex organ. There is a Hadith quoted in both Bukhari as well as Muslim, which says:

فَقَالَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ كُنَّا مَعَ النَّبِىِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم شَبَابًا لاَ نَجِدُ شَيْئًا فَقَالَ لَنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهُ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَا مَعْشَرَ الشَّبَابِ مَنِ اسْتَطَاعَ الْبَاءَةَ فَلْيَتَزَوَّجْ ، فَإِنَّهُ أَغَضُّ لِلْبَصَرِ وَأَحْصَنُ لِلْفَرْجِ ، وَمَنْ لَمْ يَسْتَطِعْ فَعَلَيْهِ بِالصَّوْمِ ، فَإِنَّهُ لَهُ وِجَاءٌ (مشكاة)

Hadhrat Abdullah bin Masood narrates that We were with the Prophet while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Apostle said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his sex organ from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting will diminish his sexual passion." (Miskhaat)

Another Hadith says:

إذَا تَزَوَّجَ الْعَبْدُ فَقَدِ السْتَكْمَلَ نِصْفُ الدِّيْنِ فَليَتَّقِ الله َ فِي النِّصفِ الْبَاقِي (مشكاة)

“When a man performs Nikaah, he completes half of his Deen, therefore, regarding the other half, he should adopt Taqwa (piety) from Allah Ta’ala”. (Mishkaat)

The author of ‘Lam’aat’, while commenting on this Hadith writes:

إنما جعل التزوج نصفا لأن الغالب في أفساد الدين الفرج و البطن

“The Nikaah has been regarded as half of the Deen because it has been commonly observed that only two things spoil the righteousness viz., the sex organ and the stomach”.

The issue of the safety of sex organ is solved by Nikaah, which makes a person chaste and modest. The thoughts and sight of such a person get serenity. That is why Allah Ta’ala helps such a person who wants to perform Nikaah and strives for it in order to save himself from indulging into an unlawful act. It is mentioned in a Hadith that one who performs Nikaah is among the three persons for whom Allah Ta’ala has promised adequate help. It is said:

ثَلاَثَةٌ حَقٌّ عَلَى اللَّهِ عَوْنُهُمُ الْمُجَاهِدُ فِى سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ وَالْمُكَاتَبُ الَّذِى يُرِيدُ الأَدَاءَ وَالنَّاكِحُ الَّذِى يُرِيدُ الْعَفَافَ (ترمزي. نسائي. ابن ماجه)

“Three (are the persons) for whom Allah Ta’ala has taken the responsibility of help. One among them is that person who is going to perform Nikaah and wants to achieve chastity and modesty through it” (Tirmidhi, Nasa’ie, Ibn Majah)

Glad tidings for an obedient woman

It is for these reasons that a woman who serves as a cause of chastity, comfort and ease for her husband has been given the glad tidings.

عن أنس قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم المرأة إذا صلت خمسها وصامت شهرها وأحصنت فرجها وأطاعت بعلها فلتدخل من أي أبواب الجنة شاءت . رواه أبو نعيم في الحلية (مسند أبو نعيم في الحلية-مشكاة)

Hadhrat Anas (RA) narrated that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “If a woman has offered five time prayers, has kept fast for the month of Ramadhan, guarded her sex organ and obeyed her husband, such a woman will enter Jannah from whichever door she desires”. (Abu Na’eem - Mishkaat)

What greater glad tidings can one wish or expect other than this? In a Hadith, such a woman has been highly praised who is happy with her husband, cheers him up when he looks at her, does not fast (supererogatory fast) without his consent as he may require her at any instance of time. This is because, all what she has done is to keep her husband completely chaste.

A Hadith has been mentioned as:

عَنْ أَبِى هُرَيْرَةَ رضى الله عنه - قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم إِذَا دَعَا الرَّجُلُ امْرَأَتَهُ إِلَى فِرَاشِهِ فَأَبَتْ ، فَبَاتَ غَضْبَانَ عَلَيْهَا، لَعَنَتْهَا الْمَلاَئِكَةُ حَتَّى تُصْبِحَ (بخاري)

Hadhrat Abu Hurairah (RA) narrated that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “If a man invites his wife to bed and she refuses, and he spends whole night in a state of anger and annoyance, then the angels curse on such a woman until morning”. (Bukhari)

Ponder the issue, what is the reason behind such a severe warning? It is only that Allah Ta’ala has made Nikaah and marital relations a means of chastity and purity for both man and woman. That is why if a married man or woman commits adultery while possessing lawful means at hand and still adopting wrongful means, then the punishment that has been decreed for them is also very severe in nature. Accordingly, the Islamic Shariah has commanded that they should be stoned. In a Hadith, the danger and condemnation of this act has been mentioned in the following words:

عَنْ أَبِى هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ثَلاَثَةٌ لاَ يُكَلِّمُهُمُ اللَّهُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ وَلاَ يُزَكِّيهِمْ قَالَ أَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ وَلاَ يَنْظُرُ إِلَيْهِمْ وَلَهُمْ عَذَابٌ أَلِيمٌ شَيْخٌ زَانٍ وَمَلِكٌ كَذَّابٌ وَعَائِلٌ مُسْتَكْبِرٌ (مسلم)

It is narrated on the authority of Abu Huraira (RA) that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “Three (are the persons) with whom Allah would neither speak, nor would He absolve them on the Day of Resurrection. Abu Mu'awiya added: He would not look at them and there is grievous torment for them: the aged adulterer, the liar king and the proud destitute. (Muslim)

At the same time, the punishment for an unmarried person who commits adultery is to lash him. Allah Ta’ala says in Holy Qur’an:

وَالزَّانِي فَاجْلِدُوا كُلَّ وَاحِدٍ مِنْهُمَا مِائَةَ جَلْدَةٍ وَلَا تَأْخُذْكُمْ بِهِمَا رَأْفَةٌ فِي دِينِ اللَّهِ إِنْ كُنْتُمْ تُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ وَلْيَشْهَدْ عَذَابَهُمَا طَائِفَةٌ مِنَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ

“(As for) the adulteress and the adulterer, flog each of them, (giving) a hundred lashes, and let not pity for them detain you in the matter of obedience to Allah, if you believe in Allah and the last day, and let a party of believers witness their chastisement”. (24:2)

It is clearly stated in the Qur’an:

نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّى شِئْتُمْ

“Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how you wish”. (2:223)

Unnatural sex and its prohibition

However, there are few commandments that one is necessarily supposed to adopt while approaching his tilth.

عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ قَالَ أَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم هَذِهِ الآيَةَ (نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّى شِئْتُمْ) أَقْبِلْ وَأَدْبِرْ وَاتَّقِ الدُّبُرَ وَالْحِيضَةَ (ترمزي)

Hadhrat Ibn Abbas (RA) narrated that the verse “Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how you wish” was revealed to Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam), but beware of two things viz., to commit sodomy and perform sexual intercourse with ones wife when she is menstruating”. (Tirmidhi)

There are many narration regarding this issue, e.g., a Hadith says:

إِن الله َ لَا يَسْتَحْيِي مِنَ الْحَقِ لَا تَأتُوْا النِسَاء مِنْ أدْبَارِهِنَّ (مشكاة)

“Allah is not ashamed to speak what is true. (it is commanded that) do not commit sodomy with women”. (Mishkaat)

The words of another such narration are as follows:

إِنَّ الْذِيْ يَأتِي امْرأتِه فِي دُبُرِهَا لَا يَنْظُرُ الله ُ إِلَيْه (شرح السنه)

“Allah Ta’ala will not look (with mercy) at a person who commits sodomy with his wife, (i.e., Allah Ta’ala will not look at him because of annoyance and anger) (Sharah-us-Sunnah)”

In another Hadith it is said:

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم مَلْعُونٌ مَنْ أَتَى امْرَأَتَهُ فِى دُبُرِهَا (أحمد)

“Rasulullah said, “He who commits sodomy with his wife is cursed”. (Ahmad)

When this unnatural act has been regarded as Haraam (unlawful) with ones own wife, how dangerous will it be if committed with a Gair-Mahram, a man/boy or with an animal etc? It is evident that there will be strict prohibition on such an act. Even an animal does not commit such an act with another animal.

In this world, the people of Lut were involved in this act. Allah Ta’ala completely destroyed that part of the earth and stones were showered on them from the sky.

وَأَمْطَرْنَا عَلَيْهِمْ مَطَرًا فَسَاءَ مَطَرُ الْمُنْذَرِينَ

“And We rained down upon them a rain, and evil was the rain on those warned”. (26:173)

In this way, the people of Lut and the punishment they received served a lesson for all the people to come until the last day. The approach that has been adopted in the warnings given in the Ahaadith regarding this evil act is worth witnessing.

عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم لاَ يَنْظُرُ اللَّهُ إِلَى رَجُلٍ أَتَى رَجُلاً أَوِ امْرَأَةً فِى الدُّبُرِ (ترمزي)

Hadhrat Ibn Abbas narrated that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “Allah Ta’ala will not look at that person who commits sodomy with a woman or a man”. (Tirmidhi)

There is another Hadith also on the authority of Hadhrat Abbas (RA) which says:

قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم مَنْ وَجَدْتُمُوهُ يَعْمَلُ عَمَلَ قَوْمِ لُوطٍ فَاقْتُلُوا الْفَاعِلَ وَالْمَفْعُولَ بِهِ (ترمزي)

Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “whoever you see committing the act which the people of Lut committed, kill both the sodomist and his minion”. (Tirmidhi)

The Ulema have termed this Hadith as a threat only, but it is quite evident how grave this crime is.

There is another Hadith which says:

مُحَمَّدٍ عَنْ عَمْرِو بْنِ أَبِى عَمْرٍو مَلْعُونٌ مَنْ عَمِلَ عَمَلَ قَوْمِ لُوطٍ (ترمزي)

“Hadhrat Umru bin Abi Umru (RA) narrates that a person who committed the act of the people of Lut is cursed”. (Tirmidhi)

Another Hadith says:

عَنْ أَبِى هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ لاَ أَعْلَمُهُ إِلاَّ عَنِ النَّبِىِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ لاَ تُبَاشِرِ الْمَرْأَةُ الْمَرْأَةَ وَلاَ يُبَاشِرِ الرَّجُلُ الرَّجُلَ (مسند أحمد)

Hadhrat Abu Huraira (RA) narrated that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “Neither a woman should copulate with another woman nor a man with another man”. (Musnad Ahmad)

In a Hadith such a person who copulates with his/her companion has been named as “Dayyouth”. The Hadith says:

عَنْ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ عُمَرَ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ثَلاَثَةٌ قَدْ حَرَّمَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِمُ الْجَنَّةَ مُدْمِنُ الْخَمْرِ وَالْعَاقُّ وَالْدَّيُّوثُ الَّذِى يُقِرُّ فِى أَهْلِهِ الْخَبَثَ

Hadhrat Abdullah bin Umar (RA) narrated that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “Three (are the persons) on whom Allah Ta’ala has made Jannat Haraam, 1. a habitual drunkard 2. a disobedient 3. a Dayyouth (cuckold) a shameless person who lets immodesty to prevail in his house)”. (Musnad Ahmad)

In yet another Hadith it has been mentioned as:

عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَقِيلٍ أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ جَابِرًا يَقُولُ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم إِنَّ أَخْوَفَ مَا أَخَافُ عَلَى أُمَّتِى عَمَلُ قَوْمِ لُوطٍ مَن عَمِل عَمَلَ قَومَ لوطِ أو أتَى بَهِيمَةً فَيُقتَل (أبو داؤد. ترمزي. ابن ماجه. نسائي)

Hadhrat Abdullah bin Muhammad bin Aqeel narrated that he heard Jaabir saying that Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “The thing that I am most afraid regarding my Ummah is the act of the people of Lut. The person who commits such an act or does so with an animal should be killed” (Abu Dawood, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah, Nasa’ie)

When the animals, who lack intellect and comprehension, desist from such kind of abominable act, how can the man who is regarded as Ashraful Makhlukaat (best of the creation) indulge in it? The so-called civilized nations of the present world have fallen even below the status of animals and that is why they don't consider this act as shameful. How much else will the intellect and wisdom slump than this, that the nations which claim to be civilized, consider the marital relationship between the same gender as permissible. It is because of this slumped intellect and wisdom that the British parliament has accorded a legal status to the relationship between the same gender as lawful. Ironically on this animal nature they claim to be a civilized nation in the whole world. May we get the privilege to sacrifice ourselves on extremely merciful and affectionate Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam), who has led us through this aspect of life also, and furnished guidance regarding modesty, chastity and purity.

It is the extremity of immodesty that this Ashraful Makhlukaat satisfies his sexual passion with an animal. The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has also elucidated the rights of animals, and in this case has issued clear instructions and serious warnings. Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said:

مَلْعُونٌ مَنْ أَتَى بَهِيمَةً (ترمزي)

“He who satisfies his desire with an animal is cursed”. (Tirmidhi)