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Question. I have a few questions to ask regarding 'mazi'
I reached puberty i couple of years ago and there are girls in my school, i am easily aroused and release sperm:
does this sperm make me napak ?
is it halal to talk to girls?
how can i prevent this sperm coming out or stop getting aroused by women
If while watching tv dirty stuff comes up on the show without me knowing it was going to come do i get sinned?
Answer
The fluid discharged at the time of arousal is called 'Mazi' (pre-coital fluid).This is a thin clear liquid which necessitates whudu on emission.
'Mani' (Sperm), is a thick fluid which is discharged at the time of ejaculation, this necessitates a Ghusl(bath) on emission.
The area of clothing soiled by Mazi or Mani should be washed and squeezed out thoroughly thrice for it to be Taahir(clean).
Intermingling of sexes is prohibited in Islam; hence talking to a Non- Mahram (Any female which one is allowed to marry by Shari a') is impermissible.
Being in school, there are many non-mahram females, even in class and to avoid them is not easy, but as far as possible try your best to abstain from talking and intermingling with them. This is one way to help prevent arousal.
Allah Ta 'ala says in the Holy Quran:
يقول الله تعالى: {قُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ ذَلِكَ أَزْكَى لَهُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا يَصْنَعُونَ وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا ...
"Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is acquainted with what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their private parts and not expose their adornments..."
From the above verse we learn that Allah Ta 'ala advises both, the believing men and women to lower their gaze. Guarding the gaze from evil is very important because by looking at wrong, one becomes tempted to do wrong.
Immoral scenes that appear on screen are one of the main reasons the Ulama( Islamic scholars) agreed on the prohibition of television. Therefore abstaining from television will definitely help prevent arousal.
Hadhrat Muhammadصلى الله عليه و سلم said regarding the gaze:
حدثنا أبو بكر بن أبي شيبة وأبو كريب قالا حدثنا أبو معاوية عن الأعمش عن عمارة بن عمير عن عبد الرحمن بن يزيد عن عبد الله قال * قال لنا رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يا معشر الشباب من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج فإنه أغض للبصر وأحصن للفرج ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم فإنه له وجاء \1\ مسلم في صحيحه ج2/ص1019 ح1400
"Oh group of youth! Whoever among you are able (physically, spiritually, financially to marry) then he should marry, for indeed it is more protecting for the gaze and more safeguarding for the private part... and whoever is unable (to marry) then he should fast for indeed that will be a shield for him."
Here we learn that if one is unable to marry then one should fast. Fasting helps prevent arousal. By following these guide lines we will be guided Insh-Allah.
Question:
We are five sisters and have no brothers. My father is the only earning member of the family and he stays abroad. I used to help in all the household matters. But I got married last month. My parents wont take any help from me anymore.
I would like to know what are the duties of a daughter after marriage towards her parents. Alhamdulillah my husband is a God fearing person and would be happy to oblige.
Answer:
May Allah Ta'ala reward you for your willingness to assist your parents and siblings.
According to Shari'ah, it is the duty of the husband to provide the financial needs for his wife and minor children. It is the joint responsibility of the husband and wife to nurture their children in a proper manner. It is only natural for you to worry about your mother and siblings since you will be leaving. However, now that you will be joining your new husband overseas, he will be responsible for your care and not your parents. Therefore, you may assist your mother and siblings out of good will if your husband gives you permission. Besides this, the duties of a married daughter towards her parents are to respect them and obey them in all commands as long as it is not something against the Shari'ah.
If the household affairs become difficult to manage once you leave and your mother needs assistance, then it will be the duty of your father to either make arrangements for your mother and siblings to join him in the country where he works or he should return to your country and seek alternative, suitable employment there so that he may be able to live with the family and assist them in all affairs.
Question:
What are permissible ornaments that can be worn by men? Chains (around the neck, around the hand etc..), bracelets, rings, ear rings, etc?
Answer:
It is not permissible for men to wear any type of ornaments or jewelry besides a silver ring. The weight of the ring must not exceed 4.373 g. It will be sunna for a ruler, judge, or an official to use a ring as a seal. For others, it will be merely mubah (permissible).